“How can I help?” friends and co-workers kindly ask. In the middle of daily living it can be tough to come up with answers, but when I’ve had some time to reflect a few things come to mind.
The first thing you can do is keep checking this blog. Many people have asked me to call or email them with progress updates and I won’t have the energy for that. I will have accomplished something if I manage a few blog posts! So keep checking back here for THE latest information.
The first day or two out of surgery (Sept 17-18) I will probably be in the ICU and not able to have visitors other than family and close friends. Starting Wednesday (Sept 19) I should be OK to have visitors during regular visitors hours (11AM-9PM). The doctors tell me to expect a hospital stay of three to seven days. After that I’ll be resting at home, and visitors are always welcome there!
- When you come to visit, bring Walker’s Shortbread — the stuff in the red plaid box.
- …or bring a Starbucks Grande Mocha Frappe.
- …or some Pro-Biotics!
- On Wednesday September 19 remind me that it’s International Talk Like a Pirate Day. If you come to visit on the 19th, help me wear my pirate tee-shirt… even if the best we can do is pin it to the back of my hospital gown.
- Buy me a hat.
- Sing. Bring a guitar if you like. Music is good!
- Watch a movie with me.
- Talk to me about what’s going on in the outside world. What’s happening at school, at work, at church, in the neighborhood? How are the Steelers doing?
- Play with my cats. I won’t be able to keep up with their speed and agility for awhile!
More Serious Things
- If I fall asleep when you come to visit, consider it a compliment. It means my true self is too exhausted to stay awake, and I’m comfortable enough to be my true self with you.
- When I get home, help me clean the house, do laundry, and other everyday stuff. I will be able to do some things, but will need help with anything that involves bending over, lifting, or managing stairs.
- For my first few weeks home I won’t be able to drive, so grocery shopping and errands will be a challenge. When you go out, give me a call and ask if there’s anything you can pick up while you’re out.
- For those who have offered to provide meals: thanks! but my husband is an excellent cook so entire meals aren’t necessary. Healthy snacks or goodies from a local sandwich shop would be cool!
If I think of anything else I’ll add on to this post. Above all, thanks for caring. ❤